I keep absolutely destroying her, like 4 times a month minimum. But sometimes you gotta make them learn, amirite boys? She threatened to tell her friends a few times, but she knows better. Then to top it off afterwards she locks herself in the bathroom and cries. I mean seriously??? This one time she cried for 3 hours.
Seriously, talk about being overly dramatic. At first it was to just make her shut up, then I started to enjoy it. It gives me a feeling of power seeing her defeated face begging for mercy. On the other hand I am getting sick of this but she keeps asking me to play Halo against her and she takes it really seriously.
Should I let her win? I would suggest going to go see a therapist and learning to talk things out with your girlfriend. In the meantime if you want to bring about a change in her, don't act so predictably, she knows what pisses you off so when you recognize what she's doing do something whacky.
Like say "hey do you want to go grab some take-out tonight" something to throw her off. MusicMayhem Yoda. If she doesn't respect you it's because you don't respect yourself enough to assert your boundaries on her as to what behaviour you accept from her. If she's winding you up on purpose, you princely probably settled. Leave her and go out and learn how to attract better girls that do respect you and you won't have constant fights and risk putting yourself in prison.
Naxwi 77 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Xper 6. You need to place a safe guard in your mind. You let what she says in a heated argument get to you too much. Maybe its how she says hurtful things when mad or always needs the last word. But you don't want to hit her and that should be in your mind at those times. I suggest you seek guidance on this one. Don't let it get to the point where you hurt a loved one. Taffod 54 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Xper 5. I'd punch a wall or a door to display strength when she would block my exit a goud my into hitting her, like a lot of her exs did. One day we were driving home she was driving and I had a day dream of grabbing steering wheel, killing us both just to not be stuck in that house with her.
I left before she turned me into something I'm not, a woman can do this to you for years and she's strong willed or spirited , you lash out once and you're a wife beater for life, walk away. Dog19 Yoda. Look, I am going to say something you won't like but you need to listen up.
Break up with her. Leave her. It's for her own safety. If you truly love your girlfriend you will breakup with her now if you think that you will lose control and kill her or hurt her. You know deep down it is best for her to leave. I know this sucks dude Honestly I was in your shoes once. I had urges to strangle people and kill myself. When you feel strong urges to hurt people you need to distance yourself from them, when you have urges to hurt yourself and they are hard to control you need to take yourself around people.
Do what is best, let her go. Let her be with a guy who isn't a danger to her. IsaJones Xper 3. I think it is unhealthy for you to be in a relationship. You didn't mention if you had even talked with her. Abuse is never an option. Verbal or physical. Dear Thelma, My heart is broken. We've been together for four years but I feel like I'm walking on eggshells — she gets angry over some of my "mistakes", and things can get ugly when things do not go her way. She says things that hurt my feelings, like calling me an idiot, saying I have no heart, am a dull person, or saying she hates me or I'm an eyesore for making those "mistakes".
She gets angry when I don't respond immediately whenever she calls. Or if I can't understand what she means or what she says. Overall, I have to be very attentive, if not I'll be in trouble. There was one time when her family was around, I was saving my phone memory by transferring some pictures or videos into my hard drive, which included some of our pictures and videos together. When she realised what I was doing, she got very upset with me, her reason being that the pictures and videos were meant to be in my phone so I could view them whenever I wanted to.
After a heated exchange, I brought up a past incident of her hitting me when she was out of control, and asked what if she injured me with a knife or something in the future?
The moment I said this, without hesitation, she went to the kitchen drawer, took out a fruit knife and slammed it on the table in front of me! I was totally shocked, even though the knife had a plastic cover over it. Luckily, her dad was there and quickly stopped her, or else I really can't imagine what would have happened to me.
The most recent one was when my aunt just passed away. I had no clear idea about the funeral procedure then. When my girlfriend asked me about it and I simply replied I wasn't sure, she got upset.
She said she hated me and I'm an eyesore, in front of her family. I felt annoyed and asked her what was going on with her. She shot back and said I kept everything to myself and didn't tell her anything. I explained I wasn't even sure about the details yet, so how was I supposed to tell her? When I told her to control her temper, she got more upset and demanded that I leave her house. Even her family was shocked to see her behave like this.
Her dad stepped in to break up our fight and tried to stop her, but she never calmed down and even yelled at me to shut up when I told her to control herself and stop being like a child. Even though I didn't leave as she demanded, still I felt my heart sink. I couldn't even look at her nor did I want to talk to her. A few months ago, I lost my dad due to lung cancer. I'm still dealing with my loss, and now I'm receiving this kind of treatment.
I'm really tired and don't have the heart to continue this anymore. Reading your letter, my heart sank. Stripped of details, it is very clear what is happening.
You must devote all your attention to her, or you are punished. If you don't do exactly as she wants, she unleashes a torrent of nasty names, which is emotional abuse. She has even used physical violence. In healthy relationships there may be quarrels, but there is respect, love and the assumption that both parties need to be happy. Power is shared, and both partners have a say in how the relationship works. In an abusive relationship, the abuser wants power. All of it. They ride roughshod over their victim, grinding them down by yelling at them, calling them names, humiliating them, scaring them, and by exhausting them in endless manufactured arguments.
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