So they may not realize when a girl is showing interest in them, since they may not be used to noticing it. Is this still revelant? Although preferences, etc. If you're good friends already, then they already like you, so it's up to you to show your interest in them. Hopefully they will get up the nerve to ask you out. Shy guys usually like somewhat but not too aggressive girls. Some big signs are biting the corner of your lip and then looking down when you see him, complimenting them a lot on things you don't usually, or gently touching their thigh or shoulder while talking.
This shows more romantic interest, but in a shy way. It'll get them thinking about you in a more romantic fashion, and give them confidence. Sign Up Now! Related Questions. He may have a slightly hostile vibe, or it won't be long before he makes a questionable chauvanistic remark. You've probably lost any interest you might have had at this point. If you're speaking with a man and your gut tells you he's a decent person, but just hasn't dated much, it's often right.
Here's what I think they are, maybe you can figure out some other ones: If you want to get to know a shy guy, it may be easier to talk to him yourself. If he seems awkward, be persistent and try talking to him again a few more times.
If you seemed to hit it off with a guy, but now he's acting strange and hesitant to talk to you, he may be shy or it could be for any of the other reasons two people seem to hit it off but then one doesn't follow up on it If a guy is nervous or insecure around you for whatever reason, just cut him some slack, don't draw attention to it, and he'll calm down eventually.
Even though you may be sending obvious hints, and even if he does understand them, you can't necessarily count on him to ask you out or kiss you himself. It may be easier for all involved if you make the first move.
Don't expect a shyer guy to necessarily get concepts like, "We just hung out twice, and fooled around once, that doesn't mean we're a couple now. If you think a guy you like is inexperienced then do him a favor and do nothing whatsoever to draw attention to it. Don't give him an opportunity to get all freaked out and insecure over what a supposed pathetic virgin he is.
If you think a guy is inexperienced, you may want to take the same approach to your own past experiences. Just don't bring them up and potentially give him something to worry about.
Sure, after you've messed around a bit and he's more relaxed and comfortable with himself you can bring up your ex-boyfriends or what you like in bed, but before that it's probably better to take a "If he doesn't know about it, it won't bother him" approach.
That's all I've got. I hope this article helps you hook up with that cute, quiet, quirky guy you've got your eye on. And of course I hope this article indirectly makes life easier out there for all the shy dudes out there too. This originally wasn't part of the article, but I decided to add it after several women wrote to me asking for help with a shy guy they were interested in getting to know.
Overall their situation was that things seemed like they were heading in a promising direction, but then he starting avoiding contact with her, and she's not sure why he's acting that way or what she can do to salvage things. The little details of each story vary: Sometimes it's obvious the guy is shy, while at other times he's harder to read and she's wondering if shyness explains his behavior.
Usually the promising first contact is that she sees the guy around in her day-to-day life - at work, on the bus, at her usual coffee shop, at the gym, etc. She's either briefly chatted to him on a handful of occasions, or they've just locked eyes a few times. She gets the sense he's interested. He seems happy to see her, but also gets flustered and tongue-tied in her presence.
The second type of promising initial contact is they've been on a date or two. Things seem to be going well, and he comes across as interested, but also nervous. He may have had a giant green light to make a physical move but didn't take it.
If she sees him as she gets on the bus he quickly looks away. If she tries to chat to him by the elevator at work he gets uncomfortable and quickly ends the conversation. If they've gone on a few dates, he stops responding to her texts and calls. The hard part of figuring all this out is that while shy guys as a whole have certain tendencies, it's impossible to tell what any one of them is thinking in a particular situation. Any of these explanations could fit: He's interested in you, but too shy to make the first move.
He's interested in you, but decided he's blown it e. She must think I'm a huge creep", "I wimped out of kissing her at the end of the second date. Why am I so spineless?
No woman likes guys like that. He's interested, and was fairly calm the first few times you saw him, but now he's feeling the pressure and it's made him too nervous to take it any further. He's shy, was interested at first, but changed his mind. His shyness is causing him to act weird around you.
He's not able to let you down in a polite, straightforward way. He's not shy, was interested at first, but changed his mind. His behavior isn't due to shyness. It's just the standard insensitive tactic of ignoring someone you're not into until they move on. Shy or not, he was never interested, and you read something into your interactions with him that wasn't there.
He's realized you feel that way and it's making him act clumsy and evasive. Since you can't expect a shy guy to do it himself, the best way to clear things up is to make a move of your own that forces him to give you a direct answer.
If you've spoken, ask him out. If you've already gone on some dates, ask him if he'd like to go out again. If he hasn't talked to you yet, start a conversation. It may go well or go nowhere, but if he seems interested, but shy and hard to read, then ask him out. His response still won't necessarily reveal his motivations he could be into you, but turn you down due to nerves , but at least you'll be able to move forward.
I realize this isn't the easiest thing to do. Making a move yourself may feel scary or unnatural. Either if you yourself are shy compared to most people, or if you've had experience dating men who are just a bit bashful, shy, but not necessarily boring or total cowards. I mean some people just aren't the life of the party and don't feel confident being 'out there. Would most women, IYE, dismiss a man who generally does make the first move, for instance? Would you say it's more extroverted gals, or similarly shy ones who tend to end up with the shy guys?
It'd be interesting to see. Most girls who talk to me seem to be on the extroverted side, but sometimes I find it's easier to get a long with and talk to the shyer ones, who actually have more to say. And sometimes first impressions can be deceiving, like there'll be a girl who looks like a wallflower who tends to approach the most.
Surprises like that make things interesting I suppose. Women with imagination Need help? Haven't really noticed any trends Originally Posted by elnina. I've dated mostly men who fall on the more quiet, shy end of things.
There are a few reasons I've always been more attracted to more understated guys, I suppose. People who don't lay it all out there are intriguing to me.
Even in friendships, I've always been most drawn to the understated types I wonder what they're all about, and take the time to find out. A shy girl who may not share her feelings openly right away doesn't always wear her heart or emotions on her sleeves. A shy girl may seem more reserved, and it may take time for her to open up, making her appear more mysterious. A shy girl may not seem like an open book, so for another individual, it may take some time for them to get to know her and to unravel her secrets.
This may keep a man or individual interested in getting to know this shy individual better, and they may like the challenge of getting a shy girl to open up to him over time. It may also make this individual feel incredibly special when she finally opens up and knows that they were able to get to know this shy individual who doesn't just open up to everyone very easily.
For some individuals, shy girls may seem to be very appealing and feminine. This isn't necessarily true in all instances or for all individuals, but for some, it's possible they feel this way about shy girls. When a girl is shy, traditionally, that is often seen as very feminine men who have more traditional values, they may be more interested in taking charge of the relationship. In this case, they may prefer a partner that is shyer than someone extroverted and outgoing. When a partner is shyer, they are usually more submissive than someone who has a more outgoing personality.
A shy partner makes it easier for the other partner to take the lead and make the relationship's decision-maker. If someone prefers these introverted qualities in a partner and likes to take the lead, they will most likely prefer a shy girl.
Of Course, not every individual will feel this way. Some men enjoy girls or partners to be more dominant and outgoing as well. It depends on the individual and what they desire in a potential partner.
Being shy is sometimes associated with innocence, as shy individuals tend to be more reserved than those that are more outgoing. Of Course, that is not always the reality, but shy girls are often perceived as innocent. A potential partner might think that shy girls exude a certain type of innocent charm about them. A shy girl may come across as more introverted or timid. This mysterious nature of a shy girl could be an appealing quality that will attract certain potential partners that desire this quality in a mate.
Some people may find outgoing girls to be a lot of fun to be around, and many people may enjoy dating outgoing girls. These types of girls or partners are often considered to be the life of the party. Ann's outgoing girl may be open to trying new or interesting things. Outgoing girls tend to be more outspoken or have strong opinions about things and may often be seen as fearless to some. Dating an outgoing girl could help individuals get out of their comfort zone and try things they may not have tried before.
Outgoing individuals tend to have a lot of friends and may seem like social butterflies. They feel comfortable talking to people and socializing.
This can be very attractive to some individuals, and it could lead to a very satisfying relationship.
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